Haters, Goals, And The Power Of Secrets

Everyone’s judging everyone, all the time.

I’m one of the most accepting, open people I know, but even I’m constantly ‘judging’ people, but probably not in the way you think.

We all assess each other and we all make decisions.

Did you know that as soon as you tell someone something, they make a decision on how possible it is for you to do?

Go ahead and see for yourself: tell somebody something – it doesn’t matter who it is – they can’t help but assess your idea’s “possibility” in their own world.

And they’ll respond accordingly.

Ever had a dream?

Ever wanted some luxury item, a certain kind of relationship, or a ‘large’ financial goal?

Well that’s cool. I’m glad.

People reaching for more is the backbone of entrepreneurship.

The thing is, your dream is kinda like your baby – and you can watch grow it, or watch it… well… die.

Let’s say you have a ‘big’ dream, like… I wanna make a million dollars in a year.

Depending on who you hang with, almost every single person who hears this is gonna ask you “how?”

But “how” is not an innocent question – it’s loaded, and it usually means “prove to me that you’re capable of this or that making a million in a year is possible.”

If someone’s asking you “how”, it usually means they don’t believe you.

They could be offering you encouragement. They could be saying “how can I help” instead of “how the f*** are you gonna do that?”

“How?” is almost always a hater question, unless it’s timed very well and masterfully well-intentioned.

And speaking of haters…

Ever had a hater (or fifty?)

Sometimes just by speaking your dream out loud, you’re attracting haters. Ouch.

Remember what I said in the beginning, about how when you say a dream out loud, people can’t help but assess it and compare it to their own life experience?

Well that’s always happening.

Friend, family, boss, – it’s not personal, but they’re all assessing you.

What does this mean for you? It means more than you think.

Because as soon as others react to what you tell them, you get a sense of whether they believe in you or not – and you respond back.

So if someone unconsciously, and – I repeat – not personally, slides towards disbelieving your dream, all of a sudden you have a discourager.

And when you have haters, chances are very high your attitude towards your dream’s gonna change.

Some people get even more determined when they encounter haters, but most lose heart.

So what can you do?

Ever kept it to yourself?

Oh I know, when you’ve got that awesome new idea — it’s just begging to get out.

And that’s a good thing.

But don’t do it immediately. Take a breath, control yourself, and consider not sharing it with people, because the amount of human beings in the world who really get you and believe in your dreams is reaaaally not high in the beginning stages.

Do you know that a huge majority of successful people have only a handful of close friends, they share their deepest thoughts with?

Are you one of them, or are you some super-magical exception who succeeds by sharing every dream you have with everyone?

Most people speak out their ideas with zero restraint.

IncomeDiary.com posted an article on some of Jay-Z’s entrepreneurial wisdom, and one that really stood out to me was #5 – Don’t Run Your Mouth.

Jay-Z gets it. He does things a different way.

You can too…

Experiment.

Most people have spent their whole lives blabbing their dreams to friends and family, and that’s okay.

But there’s another way.

Do yourself a favor, experiment. Understand the power of nurturing your dreams in peace and quiet for a while.

• Understand that unveiling them to the eyes of others has a time and a place, and it’s usually not as early as you think.
• Understand that to give your dreams the best chance at success, they need some time in the womb of your mind
• Understand that there’s no rush, there’s plenty of time to share.

I want more people to achieve their dreams. It helps them, it helps me, and it helps the entire economy. We need it.

I’m doing my part by giving you some wisdom almost nobody will tell you. And I’m offering it no charge – it’s valuable, pay attention, and let’s get some discussion going.

Have you ever shared an idea and had people respond discouragingly? Lemme know in the comments.

Note: Jason Fonceca is a positive badass who helps young, urban entrepreneurs ryze past any plateau. He offers fresh views on taboos, with clarity + insight, to help you expand physically, mentally, and emotionally at RyzeOnline.com and you can follow him @ryzeonline.

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